...I'm pretty sure it's my social life. Returned from banishment! Or maybe it was on vacation? Or sabbatical? (nah, it's not a 'smart' social life...definitely not smart enough to have been on sabbatical).
It sort of smells the same (girlfriendy and boozy).
It feels good (chatter-filled, relaxy, accepting).
Okay - all sarcasm and joking aside. I would like to give sincere thanks this Friday for the return of my social life. I was thinking about this the other day and we have had a long separation. About 5 years.
First, in the fall of 2005 I got pregnant. I wish I could be one of those fabulous pregnant woman who manages to work full time, and keep up her gym membership and still hang w/ the cool kids after work and on weekends. I was not that girl. I was tired...anemic and exhausted.
Then we had Nattie - and I lost a little bit more of my social life thru her early infancy and by nature of it being winter in VT and everyone going home to cozy up and hibernate for a few months.
Then we moved to VA. Just when I might have reclaimed my social life I found myself flying solo in a new place. Tough to have a social life when you have no friends for 600 miles. I make acquaintances very easily but with the limited free time that comes as a young Mom working full time I don't waste my precious hours on anyone who has no potential to be a GOOD friend. Snob, nope. I just know who I'm looking for and they know me.
And I did meet some really good friends along the way. However, we all have kids, young ones. And no one know better than a Mom how fast a "social life" can be derailed by a sick kid (yours or theirs)...
And then I got pregnant again...and I was that same version of myself except not anemic... This time around I was simply tired because I was pregnant and had a 2 year old to chase around.
And then Patrick arrived.
And now he is a year old...and suddenly I'm finding that I have women around me that "get me" and I "get them" and we're having a lot of fun. And I am so giddy to finally have my social life back!
Filled with glee and giddyness and joy and thanks.
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Finding your social groove after having a kid is rough. I shed quite a few friends after my daughter was born, but I found really great women to hang out with in the process.
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Well, I am jealous. First because I have NO social life (it just doesn't happen most of the time) and second-I totally wished we lived closer-it would be fun to hang out! I am glad that you are going to get to have some fun! Enjoy yourself!
Amanda@The Modern Brady Bunch
I can't wait until that happens to me...there's times when I'm so focused on my girls playdates that I miss planning my own. :( Thanks for the realization that it will happen!
Aren't friends the best? Glad you've got some social life back :)
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